Practice what you preach

Practice what you preach went out the door for me this week.  In fact it went out the door, down the street and clear into the next county.  I have no idea what happened. 

One of my personal rules for myself is to never judge people by hearsay.  I have found in my years of working with people, that we all have different personalities and each personality gets along with other personalities differently.  I experienced a few times when a fellow teacher had come to me and said that one of her student’s parent was really hard to get along with, then I ended up finding that the person for me, was a hoot and very easy to get along with.  Did I follow my own rule this week?  NO.  Someone I know  justifiably complained about another and I fell for it.  I made the same judgement as she did without even knowing what the person she was talking about even looked like!  I hadn’t even met her!  So why, I wonder did I break my own rule?

Okay, the next thing that I screwed up with (oh this was a duzy of a week, I think that my brain was taken over by aliens or something).  I have preached over and over again in the past, “if you don’t want it to be seen, or known, don’t ever, EVER put it on the internet!”  What did I go and do?  I put this person who I don’t even know, down in a fairly big way via e-mail and it somehow got to her, and a bunch of other people who I didn’t intend on.  I am so ashamed and embarrassed.  For one, I put someone down.  Unless someone does something really, really horrible, they don’t deserve to be put down, especially if it is based on someone else’s judgements.  Then two, I e-mailed it.  “If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t e-mail it!” is my new motto.  Let’s see if I can stick with that.

Long story short, it is easy to sit behind the computer and blog about how things should work, how we all should treat each other, but when it comes to the real world, it changes.  It is not as easy as it looks on paper… or the computer screen.  I am going to have to go on, and accept my fate.  I will also have to try harder, much harder to practice what I preach!

2 comments on “Practice what you preach

  1. Kirstin says:

    Boy- I learned that the hard way with a facebook mis-step that I am still dealing with. It’s so mortifying to realize you have made such an incredible social error. The best way out is humility and diplomacy. Apologize to everyone *and* their dog and future grandchildren.

  2. Ingrid says:

    I did something awful once. I edited an e-mail to a student where a principal said she could come back to the school if she wasn’t “a pain in the ass”. I took out the pain in the ass part, but then accidently sent both versions, because I didn’t throw away the original. She got it and saw that he thought she was a pain in the ass, (which incidentally, she was). Anyway, I thought she would tell the principal and I would be in trouble, plus she was sort of depressive and didn’t need to hear that he thought she was a pain. I tried to explain that he meant it in a loving sort of way—- like how adults laugh about kids and how tough they are. She eventually believed me, but the whole thing was so stupid of me, and unprofessional too. It hurt this poor girl’s feelings and that was so unnecessary. It was awful and could have worked out much worse. I am lucky it didn’t that time.
    My motto is never to say anything critical in writing! Especially in e-mails.

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