It’s been a while since I have posted. I figure it is time that I do and what better way to start than with yet another New Year’s resolution post. It’s seems silly that one of my resolutions, one I have had for as long as I remember, is to not procrastinate, and here I am, nearly a month late, posting about what my resolutions are. I try to think of it in a positive light and call it ‘prioritizing’. This year is different though. In the back of my mind, I still want to work on my procrastination, but I am going at it in a different way.
Many people make resolutions then joke that it only lasted a few days. Then they complain about how useless resolutions are, so why do it? I have thought that resolutions at the new year are important and a good chance go make self goals to strive to being a better person. I don’t know many people who want to lay stagnant with no personal goals.
I got to pondering though, about why so many of us, including me, fail? Sometime during the past year I saw an interview on TV of an author (I forgot her name, and title of the book unfortunately) about her new self-help book. The subject was self-talk, and more specifically the negative self-talk. One of her examples in the book, and I am paraphrasing, was from childhood she was told that she had weak ankles. Throughout childhood she told herself that she couldn’t do certain activities such as roller skating. It wasn’t until adulthood that she decided to try to ski, still telling herself that she wouldn’t be able to do it because she had weak ankles. She ended up trying it, succeeding, and realizing that the lifetime self-talk was a farce and didn’t do her any favors.
I belive that for many of us, the reason that we fail at resolutions is that we have the habit of telling ourselves that we won’t succeed, that we are not good enough, that it’s just another resolution that will be broken eventually. Think about it. How many times have you said, “I can’t because…” and “I am not good at (insert subject) because…” or “It’s just not possible because…”? I bet when you get right down to it and look closely, it’s quite a bit. I know I do.
I don’t know how many times I have had someone tell me that when they were kids, they thought they were over-weight, but when they go back and look at photographs, they say, “hey, I actually looked pretty good!”. Guess what. I think every one of those adults are over-weight! I am almost positive that those adults are over-weight today because for their whole lives they engaged in negative self-talk.
So, my goal for myself this year is to try at least, shut up that negative voice that tells me that I can’t, or not I’m good enough to succeed, and listen to the positive one who busts through all the roadblocks and says, “yes you can and you will because you will find a way!”